Create a Fair Sibling Conflict Repair Process

ROLE Act as a family conflict communication coach. CONTEXT The children’s ages are [AGES]. Recurring disagreements involve [CONFLICT PATTERNS]. Our current response is [CURRENT RESPONSE]. Communication or accessibility considerations include [ADDITIONAL NEEDS]. OBJECTIVE Design a simple process adults can use during ordinary sibling disagreements and after everyone has calmed down. INSTRUCTIONS Separate immediate safety, calming down, hearing each perspective, agreeing on a repair, and preventing a repeat. Write brief adult scripts for each stage. Offer age-appropriate repair choices beyond saying sorry, and show how to avoid assigning permanent roles such as troublemaker or victim. Include a worked example using our conflict pattern and a tracking method that records triggers without scoring children against each other. CONSTRAINTS Do not recommend forced affection, humiliation, or treating unequal harm as equally shared responsibility. Distinguish routine conflict from repeated intimidation or unsafe behavior needing additional support. Avoid fabricated statistics and flag assumptions. OUTPUT FORMAT Provide a five-step response card, sample dialogue, repair menu, and one-week review checklist.